"If you're standing really close to him with your hands on your hips and your feet wide apart, he'll get defensive and instinctively want to fight back," says body-language expert Patti Wood, author of Success Signals.
Similarly, if you stand meekly and tilt your head while talking to him, he might take it as a sign that you're too submissive.
"Instead, trainers reward the dog when it behaves and ignore any actions they don't like," says Sutherland.
Since dogs crave affection, they slowly begin to avoid bad habits and opt for good ones.
Since his mind and body are now surging with feel-good chemicals from your brief, fun exchange, he's less likely to wrinkle his nose at the request, says Riche.
Use this technique consistently and, over time, he'll be less likely to associate chores with drudgery.
So when you're having a sticky conversation with him, he might be unconsciously bristling at your body language.Luckily, if you indulge their silly side, you have a good shot at getting them to pay attention."When we need the chimps to perform a task, we get on their level and play with them for 5 or 10 minutes," says Eugene Cussons, rescue director on Animal Planet's Escape to Chimp Eden."That's why they generally respond well to a calming voice and touch from trainers," says Patricia Barlow-Irick, Ph D, equine-behavior specialist in New Mexico.Apply It to Your Guy Like horses, men seem to be hardwired to want to bolt at the first sound of irritation.